Posted by Gregness at 2:23pm Sep 30 '06So, a little while ago, I asked a few of my friends(including a few what they thought about the following situation:
"If a girl asks a guy out on a date, should she pay?"
Well here are some of the responses(I'll divide them up based on gender)
Responses from guys:
well, from my PoV, no matter what, the girl shouldn't have to pay for it all...unless it's like a b-day present or something...i'd go with the whole "paying half" at least...unless she presses the issue...in which case, give up. there's nothing that you can do that will change her mind
yes...actually, one should never have to pay for it all unless its a gift, like a birthday dinner or something
Ooh good question. I'd say almost universally, the expectation should be whenever a person invites anybody out for any reason that they would be paying for it unless the circumstances of the invitation were such to believe otherwise. At the very least, the individuals would pay for the outing seperately.
if she asks out, split it... if guy asks out, he pays all
Responses from girls:
i wouldn't expect it, but if it were me and i asked a guy out, i'd pay
I think guys should pay for dates...but girls should offer...
she should never pay all........well it all depends...i'd take it as a sign that he likes me if on my date, he paid
i would either pay or else split it...i wouldnt expect the guy to pay....as a guy, i would maybe offer to pay, if i was interested, and just as a nice gesture and see what she says
i dont think she should pay for the guy....but i dont find anything wrong in her paying for herself
hmm...yes
see, the girl should not be "expected" to pay, but i think that she should pay if she suggests the outing...im an old fashioned girl, and although i usually expect for the guy to pay, i always am prepared to pay for myself...unless i specifically say "hey lets go out, my treat"
if a girl asks a guy out on a date she should expect to pay for it....she definitely shouldn't expect the guy to pay for it. At the very least the couple should split it.
well the way i see it, no matter who asks both people should be prepared to pay on all dates....if someone wants to treat that is awesome and they should take turns paying but I think if she asks it shouldn't be assumed that she is paying but if a guy asks it shouldn't be assumed he's paying either....so no? they should both pay for themself unless someone is being generous....and its something that should be figured out when the asking ocurrs
i think both people should always offer to split the bill
no. they should split it
i never assume that people are paying for me...date or no...even when i was casually dating...unless the guy insisted (different from just offering to be polite)...i pay...why shouldn't i? i'm probably making as much as my date
yes it can be assumed that she should take the bill....however, if i were a guy, i wouldnt let her...its a stereotypical thing i guess...she should expect to and i guess he could expect her to be prepared to...but he shouldnt let her
Well, those are all of the responses I got. So now...what do you guys think?
"If a girl asks a guy out on a date, should she pay?"
Well here are some of the responses(I'll divide them up based on gender)
Responses from guys:
well, from my PoV, no matter what, the girl shouldn't have to pay for it all...unless it's like a b-day present or something...i'd go with the whole "paying half" at least...unless she presses the issue...in which case, give up. there's nothing that you can do that will change her mind
yes...actually, one should never have to pay for it all unless its a gift, like a birthday dinner or something
Ooh good question. I'd say almost universally, the expectation should be whenever a person invites anybody out for any reason that they would be paying for it unless the circumstances of the invitation were such to believe otherwise. At the very least, the individuals would pay for the outing seperately.
if she asks out, split it... if guy asks out, he pays all
Responses from girls:
i wouldn't expect it, but if it were me and i asked a guy out, i'd pay
I think guys should pay for dates...but girls should offer...
she should never pay all........well it all depends...i'd take it as a sign that he likes me if on my date, he paid
i would either pay or else split it...i wouldnt expect the guy to pay....as a guy, i would maybe offer to pay, if i was interested, and just as a nice gesture and see what she says
i dont think she should pay for the guy....but i dont find anything wrong in her paying for herself
hmm...yes
see, the girl should not be "expected" to pay, but i think that she should pay if she suggests the outing...im an old fashioned girl, and although i usually expect for the guy to pay, i always am prepared to pay for myself...unless i specifically say "hey lets go out, my treat"
if a girl asks a guy out on a date she should expect to pay for it....she definitely shouldn't expect the guy to pay for it. At the very least the couple should split it.
well the way i see it, no matter who asks both people should be prepared to pay on all dates....if someone wants to treat that is awesome and they should take turns paying but I think if she asks it shouldn't be assumed that she is paying but if a guy asks it shouldn't be assumed he's paying either....so no? they should both pay for themself unless someone is being generous....and its something that should be figured out when the asking ocurrs
i think both people should always offer to split the bill
no. they should split it
i never assume that people are paying for me...date or no...even when i was casually dating...unless the guy insisted (different from just offering to be polite)...i pay...why shouldn't i? i'm probably making as much as my date
yes it can be assumed that she should take the bill....however, if i were a guy, i wouldnt let her...its a stereotypical thing i guess...she should expect to and i guess he could expect her to be prepared to...but he shouldnt let her
Well, those are all of the responses I got. So now...what do you guys think?
Should she pay? - Gregness