1) Configure your automatic updates to notify only, or download and notify. This is done via Start > Control Panel > Automatic Updates. Windows security may complain, but tell it to f' off.
2) After you install updates, if they're pestering you to restart but you don't want to yet, stop the service: Start > right-click on My Computer > Manager > Services; find Automatic Updates and stop it.
2) After you install updates, if they're pestering you to restart but you don't want to yet, stop the service: Start > right-click on My Computer > Manager > Services; find Automatic Updates and stop it.